Saturday, September 17, 2011
Being Honest About Our Pain In A Crisis
So periodically we'll ask him what color something is. However, he's clearly not distinguishing them yet and at this point always says, "green." No problem though - that's what two-year-olds do. However, hurting people can also sound like our little grandson when asked what color they are. I'm referring to when people ask them about how they are doing or there is an opportunity for them to be real and honest with people who truly care.
Their version of green is to simply suggest they are fine, don't need anything or are much better. They feel like they must climb their mountain alone, stay anonymous about their pain and avoid anyone else's help.
Let me suggest a couple of reasons why we need to be real when we're in a painful crisis. First, we will have more resources to live life if we allow others to help. We're not only dealing with our struggle but we have to do the everyday things too - work, parent, shop, whatever.
Second, we give others the reward of helping us. When we won't be helped we actually steal from the healing and comfort others might receive by assisting in our time of need.
Third, we learn humility that will help us in other areas of life. I remember when my wife Jackie had cancer we had scores of people come to our aid. However, we had been in pastoral ministry for many years and were mostly used to helping others not being helped. God gave us an extra and needed measure of humility when we started to let others walk beside us. And we certainly became more understanding when others were going through a similar journey.
So, whatever your struggle and no matter how high your mountain let some fellow climbers join you on your journey. Don't tell people you're just green all the time. Be honest when you can, share your hurts, hard times and disappointments. Because as Kermit the Frog often says, It's not easy being green.